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I mean no offense to the ladies...

I dont mean to offend any of the sensibilities of the women on this site. i really have no intention of trying to make myself out to be a judgemental prick (if you know me, then you are more then welcome to refer to me as such), but something bothers me about the ladies around here.
so, i've noticed two types of girls who go on these sites. 1) the spunky, wanting to meet new people, faked being 18 to get onboard show lovin' types or 2) the intellectuals/emo ladies (often multi-talented and full of wit and/or charm) burned many times by men they've thought were what would make them feel better about themselves.
its funny, but the first kind is often polite enough to reply or even give a conversation a chance. unfortunately, i hate feeling like a world-worn smarty-pants or a pedophile, so i tend to stay away from those conversations.
i just find it frustrating is all. this even plays true in the "real world." you meet a girl. you start talking to her and its obvious you are not someone she's going to give the time of day to. but, oh oh oh, that guy over there? the one that screams "cheating, insensitive date-rapist?" he's to die for.
Rune and i discussed this at length at the bar last night. beer was the instigator, but he refused to let up about the fact that its good that my standards are as high as they are, but bad that i look at every girl as some type of job interviewee and not just a girl with potential. being quick to judge, in his opinion, is what is keeping me alone. and having a specific type of girl already qualified in my head is what has lead me to such constant disappointment, because it should be obvious by now that i am in no way someone that they will conciously find attractive at first notice. if i want what i have always directed as my type, i'll have to play mindgames, because i dont walk, dress, or act the part of their ideal mate.
The Law, also had some thoughts on this. he pointed out that my trying to have a relationship with every girl i make it two steps with is just a little too much at our age (he's two years older than me) and that that obsession with the future keeps me from actually getting to know them in "right here, right now" kind of way. he's still in shock that i can't seem to find ANY girl and havent been able to for going on 9 months now. i just tell him that single is as single does and when it happens i'll be a lot more ready for it than when i was only single for 2 months.
Will just likes to point out that i'm a lot smarter about my tastes now that i've been burned so many times by the ladies or by my own actions coming back to haunt me.
frankly, i know i'd do better this time because after having one of those moments of clarity when you realize how youve fucked up so many times over the last year or so, you kind of have a handle on what you could do better next time and what you used to pride yourself on.
random thoughts. whoever actually reads this shit can take it as they want.

posted by AmeroKafka @ 7:05 PM